A recent guest post on Jeff Goins site caught my attention. It was entitled Three Paralysing Statements That Keep You From Your Best Work. The post was written from the perspective of a writer but the examples of statements that paralyze us; keep us from moving forward or moving back can apply to any area of our lives.
The post listed three examples:
- Someone Else Can Do It Better
- I’m Not Ready
- I’m Wasting My Time
It’s a month since I launched this blog but almost a year had passed before I found the courage to go public.
I was paralysed. I was afraid to move forward; afraid to practise in public, afraid to be vulnerable, afraid that nobody would comment & afraid that they would. I was afraid to embrace the dream & afraid to give it up .
All of the above statements rang through my head and my heart keeping me locked in place. The statement that caused the greatest paralysis was not on the above list nor on the image at the top of this post.
You Will Sound Stupid
This was the statement that stopped me in my tracks.
For the last twenty years of my life I have talked for a living. I am a teacher, counselor, coach & motivational speaker. Admittedly, my mouth often gets ahead of my busy brain & I get in trouble. I’ll tell that story another time. By in large I am confident as a speaker.
I wasn’t stopped from public speaking but from public writing. I recently committed to writing a book review for I Deserve A Donut written by virtual friend & writer Barb Raveling. Barb has an app by the same name which is amazingly helpful. It has been the best $1.99 I’ve spent in a long while.
It took me several days & a bucket full of guilt before I could actually sit down & write that review. I was terrified that I would sound stupid. Where was the statement that paralysed rooted? How was it connected with sharing my writing & not with my public speaking? What is the truth in the midst of the lies that paralyse?
It Must Be Cold To Be A Cow
We were traveling across the prairies in mid-winter on a trip from Edmonton to Saskatoon. Mile after mile of barren, windswept snow covered fields showed no sign of life except the odd herd of cows all facing away from the wind. Even at eight I thought about thoughts that few people ever entertain. That day I vocalized the thought “It must be cold to be a cow”. At -30F that was likely an accurate observation but it was the gales of laughter that erupted from my parents & brother that devastated. My innocent remark became a family story that was repeated often even into my adulthood. My words became a family joke. The laughter cemented the belief that I will sound stupid.
When I teach or speak publicly the words come easily. The words are inspired by what I’ve been taught or experienced. There is freedom & confidence. It is the vehicle: the powerpoint presentations, the images, the titles that I agonize over.
In writing Unveiled: Design to Destiny I struggle more with the titles & the images then the content.
Writing, art, music, dance are all creative disciplines. They make something out of nothing.
They are about the container as much as the content. They are deeply personal.
They are birthed not made. They image what God planned for us before the foundation of the earth & breathed into us at our conception. We are His masterpiece; His workmanship.
Fearfully & Wonderfully Made
It wasn’t only the content that was rejected on that winter day. The little girl with the busy brain & the observant heart was humiliated & dismissed. Statement after statement were added to the list.
- Too much
- Be quiet
- Be like
- Don’t be like
There were so many labels that she missed the central statement- You are Fearfully & Wonderfully Made . You bring something unique to the world that no one else can bring. You will know the truth about you & you will be set Free!
What About You ?
- What would you add to the image at the top of the post?
- What are your top three statements?
- How do you identify with the three statements listed above?
- How are you paralysed?
- What are the roots?
- How are you designed?
- What is the deposit God has placed within you?
- What is the cost of freedom?
Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex.
Your workmanship is marvelous.
I want to know that as Truth.
Set Me Free!